For Men
Who Struggle
Building awareness of men who struggle with suicidal ideation, self harm, and depression in silence
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
Phone: 800-273-8255
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
In emergencies, call 911
For Men Facing Suicidal Thoughts and Ideation
Why the focus on men? Often, men are encouraged to stay strong, suck it up, man up, etc. Having feelings and talking about them is generally frowned upon. The narrative is changing slowly, but more can be done still. There is a term referred to as "Toxic Masculinity." It is in reference to traits of male culture that focuses on being 'macho,' for lack of a better word. For those who suffer from emotional trauma and thoughts of suicide and depression, this culture of masculinity can be very distressing. It sets men up for failure when faced with emotional trauma.
There could be many causes for this toxic masculinity in each scenario, but generally it comes from cultural norms. It fosters a sense of shame and failure for not being a strong and independent man who stuffs his feelings down. This creates a block to open communication. This is one reason why many resources are starting to focus on the pressure of men and suffering in silence. If this sounds like you, I encourage you to look for a support group in your local area and to watch the video below.
You are not alone in your fight against depression and suicide.
A TED talk about alarming rates of Male suicide and - in short - what is contributing to men and boys feeling shamed. Breaking out of the story of masculinity and being 'too soft' or 'too sensitive' in western culture. She promotes men being vulnerable and sharing what is truly troubling them.
She encourages openness to discuss what is going through the minds of men who feel the need to attempt suicide. She encourages people to practice being open to listen and respond lovingly to those who may need to talk about their distressing thoughts. Steph Slack calls all of us to action to change the way we think about masculinity and depression and suicide.
Dr. Timothy Golden holds a TED talk about the silent but suffering man. Spousal abuse causes much harm - regardless of the gender of the victim. Dr. Golden shares a story about masculinity and how a man grows up learning that he shouldn't talk about feelings or thoughts of worthlessness. It's his goal to raise awareness of the silent but suffering man.
He encourages men to feel brave enough to share their story and encourages the rest of us to listen to the stories that have been hidden from public view. His hope is that by expressing what is inside, they will reduce the shame, guilt, and pressure to be a strong man; and in doing so, reduce the feelings of hopelessness and to resist committing suicide.
Steph Slack at TEDxFolkestone
Dr. Timothy Golden at TEDxWallaWallUniversity
